Sunday, June 11, 2006

What do you do?

Say your daughter goes to spend the night at a friend's house.

Say she tells you that she saw the father's butt. naked.

Say it is because he went to the kitchen to get a drink in the middle of the night and because he thought everyone was asleep, didn't bother to put any clothes on.

What would you do?

Lauren went to spend the night at a friend's house. Around 11:30 that night I felt like I just needed her home. Like something was wrong. I tried to shake the feeling, but I couldn't. I finally called to just check on her. The Mom answered the phone and said that her daughter was sleeping but that Lauren was still awake. I asked to talk to her and she was fine. I then told the Mom that I just had a strange feeling and I needed to her to bring Lauren home (Mike was gone and the boys were asleep). She brought her home and I was talking to her. She mentioned that while she was watching tv she saw the Dad's butt. I asked if she saw anything else and she said no. I left it at that. The more I thought about it though, the more uncomfortable I grew with the entire situation. First, I was upset she was up at midnight when I called. Then I was upset that he was irresponsible with my child in the house. The girls were sleeping on the sofa bed so they were in view of the kitchen.
I spoke to the Mom yesterday and told her that I was uncomfortable with what I learned from Lauren and that sleepovers are off as well as playdates (at least for the time being). She said that he does sleep nude and occationally will go get a drink that way once everyone is asleep. I told her that what they do within their family is not my business, but it was irresponsible of him to do it while someone else's child was in the home. I told her that I have issues of my own and that I was not happy with the situation. I often sleep in just a tshirt and panties, but if the kids have friend's over, I always put on shorts as well because you never know when they will be awake or what not.
Man this parenting this is hard. I am glad my "Mommy radar" went off. But I am now even more fearful about letting my kids, particularly Lauren, sleep at friend's houses. As of right now, I have put a ban on sleepovers. For all of my kids.


sillypants said...

For me, it would depend on how well I knew the family. If it was one of "real friends" who I trust completely, I would tell the dad he's a dumbass and not to do it again.

If it were someone we aren't close with, I probably would have done exactly what you did.

mom in law said...

Good call. That's my girl.
The most wonderful mom in the world.